To forgive and forget

I used to like asking what-if questions. Now, I like to ponder about them. One such question has been: What if you found out that your partner cheated on you? Instant bye-bye?

As with most things, it depends. This time, however, there's a factor which doesn't usually come to play. It depends on whether others also know about the affair.

If it is a private issue, just between you and your partner, it is much easier to forgive and forget. However, when the word spreads, things start getting complicated.

There are those who argue that a relationship is just between two people, that external opinions shouldn't play any part in decisions. I tend to believe that, although a relationship is indeed centred around two individuals, they are not the only ones affected.

At any rate, relatively widespread knowledge of such an incident could only aggravate the situation. It attracts opinions from people who, though undoubtedly thinking in your best interests, may not fully comprehend your stance.

Suddenly, your decision is also under scrutiny and judgement.

Recent reports claim that Elin Nordegren had always known about Tiger Woods' mistresses, but chose to remain in the marriage. I hope she can still stay true to herself after the media's given their two cents.